You’re Getting ‘Married,’ Not ‘Weddinged’
Wednesday, October 26th, 2011The planning of a wedding can become a whirlwind of excitement, but there can also be a lot of distractions. This NJ catering hall has seen many brides walk down the aisle and this piece of advice is one of the best we’ve heard! Remember the reason you started planning your vineyard ceremony or garden reception in the first place, to marry the love of your life!
Source: Forbes
I want to explain a simple mindset shift that will have a profound influence on the foundation of your marriage. Amazingly, I’ve never seen it even touched on in the wedding world.
A few weeks before my wedding this June, a friend of mine sent me an email with various tips on getting the most out of my wedding day. The one that hit me the hardest was “Remember you’re getting married, not weddinged.”
In 2010, the wedding industry made over $161 billion (Fairchild Bridal Group). If you’re awake, you’ve probably noticed that our culture is obsessed with weddings. There are print publications that celebrate wedding design from bridal gowns to wedding favors, signature cocktails to bowties and everything in between.
According to Liene Stevens, founder of Splendid Communications, there are over 200 professional wedding blogs, which have published over 15,000 real weddings. Rebecca Mead author of One Perfect Day: The Selling of the American Wedding reports that the average wedding in the U.S. has 43 vendors involved. Even TV has jumped on the bandwagon in recent years with the success of Say Yes to the Dress, Bridezillas, and Shedding for the Wedding.
And I don’t have to remind you that 40% to 50% of marriages end in divorce.
Looking at this reality, most people will conclude that weddings have become a circus for materialism, an excuse for brides to be bitchy, and a total waste of money. I however believe that instead of “poo-pooing” the $161 billion spent on this years blushing brides, we should take it as a sign that weddings are plainly a really big deal. I believe that instead of trying to cut back on materialism, brides and the media merely need to balance the design obsession with an attention to love, personal development and preparation for marriage.
For the full article and helpful tips for bringing marriage back into the wedding conversation, click here.




